Drinking is a huge problem all over the world. Binge drinking in colleges, abuse of alcohol by teenagers, lonely drinkers, who want to escape from reality, are dangerous. But how does a person become a drunkard, and how can one stop the process?
In this article I am going to tell a story about a family tragedy of a college student from Saint Petersburg City. Kate, 20, lives with her step-father and mother. “My parents got divorced when I was 13. Right now my step-father is my friend: we go abroad together, we talk a lot, we do sports. I see he supports me.” Kate says her biological father, Mr. Elkin, hit her mother and her older sister, he yelled at ladies and abused physical power. “It’s very hard to forget and it’s even harder to talk about it. One day I came home a bit earlier from my volleyball practice. I opened the door and saw my mother lying on the floor. She was choking. My father was near her, he didn’t try to help her at all.” Kate says drinking was his problem. “He could drink for many days. One day police got him lying on the street. They called our land phone. Mom was totally shocked. That was a shame for her, for a 10 and a 16 year-old girls, but not for an adult man.” Kate admits her Dad realized he was a drunkard, but he was a weak-willed person. “He promised us quit drinking, but the other day I found a bottle of vodka in my box for toys. Now I understand that was an illness.” Relatives tried to help Mr. Elkin, he had a course of supportive treatment but nothing helped. “I believe he could quit without medications. It is not hard to refuse to drink. The problem is a desire.” Kate hasn’t been talking to her Dad since parents got divorced. She was never interested. “Mom always payed for my education, for sports and everything. She was paying for my sister’s tuition without any help. He was not there.” However, the lady knows her father was reported to be in a nursing home. “Some neighbors called my family and said my Dad was in a delirious condition. He saw some awkward pictures, he got angry.” Kate says there were several bottles of vodka and a few slices of bread in the kitchen. The lady can’t imagine how a normal person could live like that.
This story may happen to everyone. The one thing we should do is to take care of people who are near us. “On the one hand I wish I could help him, on the other hand he damaged my life.”
Millions if people live with it, they put a blind eye on violence in families. Isn’t it time to think this problem over and boost one-parent kids, victims of drunkards and give support to everyone who needs it? Kate is an exception as she is happy now. She is not alone now. She has a nuclear family and, unfortunately, she knows what violence is.